tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889326088387289258.post5291963807403638565..comments2023-05-27T05:20:06.137-07:00Comments on Seeds of Creativity: Devil's AdvocateDottie Maehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14493180344799400590noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889326088387289258.post-37123064911303419002011-02-01T14:04:04.137-08:002011-02-01T14:04:04.137-08:00I should add to the last comment that the friendsh...I should add to the last comment that the friendships I have that have survived conflict are my strongest. Sometimes I've had to swallow my pride, sometimes the other person, usually we've both been able to. But once we've done it, we have both gotten better at listening, and finding ways to disagree that give us both a chance to grow.bcnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889326088387289258.post-78664504165441929402011-02-01T13:57:55.716-08:002011-02-01T13:57:55.716-08:00Don't forget the second half of the experiment...Don't forget the second half of the experiment where each team had a chance to remove one member - in every case it was the D.A. who was removed, even though it resulted in a significant decline in the quality of their analysis and solutions.<br />The authors concluded that "Intellectually, it is easy for many of us to buy into the idea that competition and confrontation can spark creativity...but on a personal level, we don’t like how conflict feels.....(If we can view) conflict as sharing the same goal or vision but seeing a different path to accomplish it....WHO is right is no longer important and WHAT is right becomes the focus."<br />This can be easier said than done - I'm as guilty as the next person about getting my back up when something challenges certain beliefs, or my ego. <br />Still, I do believe that when there are common values, just different ways to achieve them, bridges will get built.<br />I trust that your friendship will survive this hurdle, and maybe emerge even a bit stronger in the long run. I'm hoping so....<br /><br />bcbcnoreply@blogger.com